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The near enemy of love is attachment. attachment masquerades as love. it says, “i will love this person because i need them.” or, “i’ll love you if you’ll love me back. i’ll love you, but only if you will be the way i want.” this isn’t love at all - it is attachment - and attachment is rigid, it is very different from love.
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The Near Enemy Of Love Is Attachment.

Jack Kornfield
The near enemy of love is attachment. attachment masquerades as love. it says, “i will love this person because i need them.” or, “i’ll love you if you’ll love me back. i’ll love you, but only if you will be the way i want.” this isn’t love at all - it is attachment - and attachment is rigid, it is very different from love.
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